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Running the Meeting

It is a good idea to use some sort of team-building activity to begin a class meeting. Next, going over ground rules is a must. At the first meeting you might have a class that is ready to create some rules, or you might just have predetermined rules. A sample list of rules might be:

1. One person speaks at a time.
2. Everything here is confidential.
3. If someone is not here, use the words, "I know someone who…"
4. Only positive words and body language.

Defining these rules is critical, especially the rules regarding confidentiality. This concept is intended to allow kids to speak truthfully and save face when admitting wronging. Remember to explain that confidentiality does not prevent the student from talking with parents, counselors, administrators and/or you. It does prevent students from talking about the issue after the class meeting with all other classmates and students. This really helps with the rumors. Finally, remember to explain that abuse, drug use and threats cannot be kept confidential.

Next, cover the agenda. It is good to have a process to follow. Call on each person and ask if there is still an issue to be resolved. Sometimes kids will have forgotten all about the issue. Saying, "It's good you used the agenda to deal with your feelings," helps children understand that using a positive outlet for their anger or anxiety is a positive step. Students also may report that a problem is resolved. A reassuring, "Are you sure?" may help those that are fearful to speak-up. Saying, "I am proud of you for resolving the issue," is always a good way to reinforce that the goal is for everyone to be able to resolve problems more effectively. If the student reports that the issue is still alive, then follow through with the problem solving style that fits you and your students best. Some classrooms applaud when an agreement is reached.

End the meeting by reminding students of confidentiality issues and offering praise.

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Aaron Sterling has helped develop peer mediation and conflict resolution programs in California and Virginia.
He currently teaches elementary students in northern Virginia.

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